The simplest rule to remember about wedding etiquette is never say or do anything that might lead to even the slightest potential offence. The wedding is surrounded by tradition, many of which have been forgotten or replaced over time. This part is compiled to illustrate the expected protocol in certain situation, both traditionally and where applicable.
■The Bride
To nearly all the women, the wedding day is the most important day in their life. It is the day where, as the bride, she is rightfully the “star of the show’. She is instrumental in the organization of her day from start to finish. She would usually begin planning months in advance, even up to the day itself. She would participate in decision-making in almost every part of the wedding planning, from the dress to the flowers, the cake, the type and date of ceremony—and much more! The ability to organize whilst not offending others is a useful technique during planning. Don’t forget that the wedding is also a big day for both sets of parents. Parents will undoubtedly, appreciate any consultation and their advices may prove beneficial. Eventually, the couple have the final say on decision-making.
The bride and the groom would also greet guests at the reception.
■The Groom
Contrary to popular belief, the groom’s role in organizing a wedding extends far beyond deciding what to wear at the stag party and the acceptance of congratulatory drinks. The first is a small matter of an engagement ring to choose and buy. He has the joint responsibility in the major decisions, such as the choice of wedding reception, photographer and venue. His contribution would take some pressure off his bride-to-be. Then, with the help of his parents, he should compile the guest list for both the ceremony and reception, which would be presented to the bride’s mother after being finalized.
On the wedding day, the groom and his best man should arrive at the wedding venue about 20 minutes before the ceremony. He walks back up the aisle, following the signing of the register, with his new wife on his left, to begin the formal photographs. Then it’s onto the reception where the bride and groom prepare to greet their guests as they arrive. The groom is expected to introduce his new bride to relatives and friends who have not met her previously. Following the bride’s father’s speech, the groom should thank the bride’s parents for his “new bride”—and all those involved in the organization of the wedding. The speech should include a toast to the bridesmaids. After the speech and cutting of the cake, it’s time for the first dance. Traditionally, the groom should invite the bride’s mother to dance, the bride’s father would then take over, allowing the groom to dance with his bride.