Have you ever thought about how much you are saying to people even when you are not speaking? You are constantly sending messages about your true thoughts and feelings no matter you are using words or not,unless you are a master of disguise.Studies show that your words account for only 7% of the messages you convey,while the remaining 93% is non-verbal.55% of communication is based on what people see and the other 38% is transmitted through tone of voice.Therefore,take a consideration about it.What you are not saying can also be seen by people,and if your body language does not match your words,you are wasting your time.
The most obvious way you communicate is eye contact.You show your interest when you are looking at the others.You give the impression that the other person is of no importance when you fail to make eye contact.In order to show interest,keep eye contact about 60% of the time,but not aggressive.When having conversation,sincere look into the eyes of your partner shows respect and politeness.Keep eye contact frequently,neither avoiding your partner’s eye too long or look at other things or people,nor staring at your partner.Make eye contact on time with changing of your conversational topics.Generally,staring at the area between the eye and upper lips will make your partner feel comfortable on social occasions.
Facial expression is another form of non-verbal communication.A smile sends a positive message and is appropriate in all but a life and death condition.Smiling adds an aura of confidence and warmth.Others will be more receptive if you remember to check you expression.
Your mouth also gives clues not just when you are speaking.Mouth movement,for example,pursing your lips or twisting them to one side,can show that you are thinking about what you are hearing or that you are holding something back.
The position of your head shows something to people.Keeping your head straight,which is different from keeping your head on straight,will make you appear self-assured and authoritative.People will take you seriously.If you want to come across as friendly and open,tilt your head to one side.