Chinese table manners, whether it is used to entertain only a few guests at a single table in one’s home or to holding a public banquet involving dozens of guests sitting at several tables, changes with the character and purpose of the dinner. It also differs a little from region to region in China. However, there are some common rules you can follow at the table in China.
One of the biggest differences between Chinese and Occidental dining manners is that in China a few dishes are offered in the center of a table and shared by all. This means that you should feel free to help yourself not just at the beginning of the meal but during it as well. Also, regard it as a sign of honor and express thanks when a Chinese host picks up food from the center of the table and places it on your plate. In formal dinners, there are always communal chopsticks and spoons for this purpose, but some hosts may use their own chopsticks. This just shows genuine friendship and politeness. It is always polite to eat the food. If you do not eat it, just let the food remain in the plate.
In restaurants banquets are usually held in private rooms that have been reserved for the purpose. All members of your delegation should get there together and on time. You will be greeted at the door and guided to the banquet room, where the hosts are likely to have gathered. Traditionally, as in all occasions, the head of your delegation should enter the room first. Do not be surprised if your hosts welcome you with a loud round of applause. You should applaud back as a response.
Table manners in China also include respect for the elders, just like much of other Chinese etiquette. At the table, serve food for your elders before taking it for yourself. Also, if someone proposes a toast, make sure that when you clink glasses with someone older than you the rim of your glass is lower than that of the elder person, because this is an important sign of respect. Chinese people emphasize filial piety all the time.