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人生没有错误，只有教训
There Are No Mistakes， Only Lessons
佚名 / Anonymous
Human growth is a process of experimentation， trial and error， ultimately leading to wisdom. Each time you choose to trust yourself and take action， you can never quite be certain how the situation will turn out. Sometimes you are victorious， and sometimes you become disillusioned. The failed experiments， however， are no less valuable than the experiments that ultimately prove successful； in fact， you usually learn more from your perceived “failures” than you do from your perceived “successes”.
If you have made what you perceive to be a mistake， or failed to live up to your own expectations， you will most likely put up a barrier between your essence and the part of you that is the alleged wrong-doer. However， perceiving past actions as mistakes implies guilt and blame， and it is not possible to learn anything meaningful while you are engaged in blaming. Therefore， forgiveness is required when you are harshly judging yourself.
Forgiveness is the act of erasing an emotional debt. There are four kinds of forgiveness：
The first is beginner forgiveness for yourself.
The second kind of forgiveness is beginner forgiveness for another.
The third kind of forgiveness is advanced forgiveness of yourself. This is for serious transgressions， the ones you carry with deep shame. When you do something that violates your own values and ethics， you create a chasm between your standards and your actual behavior. In such a case， you need to work very hard at forgiving yourself for these deeds so that you call close this chasm and realign with the best part of yourself. This does not mean that you should rush to forgive yourself or not feel regret or remorse； but wallowing in these feelings for a protracted period of time is not healthy， and punishing yourself excessively will only creates a bigger gap between you and your ethics.