Upsets seem to be caused by what happens but they’ re not. Upsets are caused by your fighting and resisting what happens. To see this in your life， select a recent upset， Now notice what would happen if somehow you were at peace with what happened. There would be no upset.
There would be no upset because upsets aren’ t caused by what happened. Upsets are caused by fighting and resisting what happened. The moment you take away the fighting and resisting， the upset disappears.
To live the experience of love， and to create a life that works， you need to stop the fighting and resisting. You do this through a process called letting go.
Letting go is the inner action that releases the fear and upset. The moment you let go， everything seems to change. With the fear and upset gone， you see your situation very differently. You become creative and discover solutions that you could never have seen before.
To let go， you need to do the opposite of fighting and resisting. You need to let go of your demands and expectations for how life should be and make peace with the way life is.
Find what you are resisting. Then give it full permission to be there， If you have a fear of losing a relationship， be willing to be it. If you are resisting the way someone is， then give the person full permission to be that way.
Be willing for anything. Set yourself free inside. Then take whatever action you need to have your life be great.
Keep in mind that letting go is a state of mind and has nothing to do with your actions. Letting go is the process that removes the fear and upset so you can see what action you need to take.
In your heart， you can be willing to lose someone， but in your actions， do everything you can to make sure the person feels so loved that he or she would never want to leave.
To make letting go a little easier， there are several steps you can take. The first is trusting. Trust that no matter what happens， you will be okay. When you know that you will be okay， letting go becomes relatively easy.