The Bible shows the way to easy， happy living in many of its pages. It advises， "It is more blessed to give than to receive." Those who expect the most are apt to receive the least. I had expected much and was filled with fury because nothing in the outside world relieved my emptiness4 and despair. Nothing did， either， until I could face the anger and fury， the emptiness and despair， and slowly start to know such new feelings as compassion， conviction， control， calm. I learned， too， of reason—that judicious combination of thought and feeling that enables me to take more responsibility for myself and others， that allows me to slay the ghosts of the past.
For me there is much hard work ahead to achieve greater happiness. Yet， the very struggle I have put into achieving a measure of it makes happiness that much more dear.
我相信， 爱与被爱是每个人的渴望。一个人是否幸福，关键在于他是否拥有爱并能够接受爱。
在有些人看来，爱就是一种充满活力、渴望且极富戏剧性的情感，是占有一切的**与欲望。而我认为，这种爱是极不成熟的爱：它是向他人的索求，而不是奉献。只有成熟的爱才能带来幸福，它是内心真挚情感的流露，能够接受并理解他人，给予对方温柔与体贴。它不索求服务，而是处处提供服务。
6年前，由于身患急性鼻窦炎，我几乎难以呼吸。胃部也常感不适，易恶心呕吐。失眠问题也一直困扰着我，即使我感到疲惫不堪却依然辗转难眠。可是，医生对我的病症所做的治疗毫不奏效，我的痛苦丝毫未减。绝望中，我尝试了心理疗法。很幸运的是，我找到了一位博学、热情的医生，他让我懂得了，能够相信自己与他人的意义所在。
我身体的疾病得以治愈，而更多的是我最终开始学会一门生活的哲学。我一直是一个循规蹈矩的人，虽然我并不相信那些教条与格言，但多年来，由于不敢质疑，我一直不假思索地将其视为生活的准则。然而我难以正常而平静地生活，总是坐立不安。最终，我受到了惩罚，病魔缠身，同时也得到了启示：必须对现状做出改变，否则将万事不顺。