Early one morning， Donna received a phone call with some terrible news： her best friend's brother had been killed in a car accident. Donna had known this friend， Mary， and her brother nearly her entire life， and the news was devastating. However， Donna quickly pulled herself together， got in the car， and drove to her friend's house to be there with her.
Over the course of the next few days， amidst the haze of the funeral and hundreds of visitors， Donna was 100 percent present for Mary. She held her close while she cried endless tears， sat by her side as the waves of grief washed over her friend， and slept on the floor next to Mary's bed to make sure she did not wake up alone in the middle of the night. During that time she hardly felt any pain in her knee at all and none of the depression she had been experiencing.
Several weeks later， when life began to return to normal， Donna realized that the level of support she had given Mary far exceeded any support she had offered herself during her dark time. She was able to use the support she had given her friend as a mirror for the support she had been withholding from herself. She realized that her own tears required as much attention and nurturing from her as anyone else's， and that if she could give it to another， she must be able to also give it to herself...
So， when you find yourself unable to support someone else， look within and see if perhaps there is something within yourself that you are not supporting. Conversely， when you give complete support to others， it will mirror those places within you that require the same level of attention.
传播光明的方法有两种：要么做一根蜡烛，要么做一面镜子去反射它的光芒。
——沃顿
他人身处困境时，你主动帮他渡过难关，你就是在支持他。或许你不会想到，你帮助他人的同时，也是在帮你自己。拒绝对他人施以援手，其实也是拒绝帮助自己。