4. Enjoy life’s process， not just life’s rewards. We live in a goal-oriented society that wants problems resolved now. We want three-minute oatmeal， one-hour dry cleaning， and instant success. But to live with abandon， we must live one day at a time， savoring the little victories， realizing that life is an endless journey in self-discovery and personal fulfillment. It means taking time to hug your kids， kiss your spouse and let the other fellow ahead of you on the freeway.
“I was one of those people who never go anywhere without a thermometer， hot water bottle， raincoat and parachute，” wrote author Don Herold. “If I had my life to live over， I would go barefoot earlier in spring. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would take more chances， and I would eat more ice cream.”
5. Become involved in something bigger than yourself. I do not believe you will live happily if you set out to live life for yourself alone. Choose a cause bigger than you are and work at it in a spirit of excellence. It will become a part of you as you see your goals through to the end. Measure success not by what you’ve done， but what you could do.
几年前，我收到一张明信片，是一位住在怀俄明州的朋友杰克逊·霍尔寄来的。他写道：“我正在尽情地滑雪。”我感到很奇怪，因为我滑雪时总是惊恐不安的。我相信，他是说自己正熟练、欢快、平稳而又自信地滑雪。尽管，我是毫无希望那样滑雪的，但我梦想尽情地生活。我相信，经时间证明那些生活幸福的人，都掌握了尽情生活的以下五个秘诀。
1.自尊。这意味着要对自己的言行高度负责；要遵守诺言、对自己、家庭和事业忠诚；信仰自己的事业并为之努力奋斗；要树立自身的内在准则，不与他人攀比。这不是说一定要比别人更好，自尊和正直要求自己比自我感觉的更好。
面对敌对者，温斯顿·丘吉尔树立了自尊和正直的典范。他最后一年任职时，参加了一次公务典礼。他后面几排的两位绅士窃窃私语，“那就是温斯顿·丘吉尔。”“他们说他越来越老了。”“他们说，他应该退位，应该由精力充沛、能力更强的人来替代他来管理国家。”典礼结束后，丘吉尔转身向那两个人说道：“先生们，他们说丘吉尔还是个聋子！”