What Is the Price of Personal Peace
佚名 / Anonymous
We want to live in peaceful times，in peaceful communities， in peaceful families. When asked what people wanted most in their lives， surveys showed that peace of mind topped the list. As with most things we want， though， it has a price. Are you prepared to pay？
If you are still yelling at the driver in front of you， there cannot be peace. If you believe your way is the only way， there cannot be peace. If you are more likely to judge others than reflect on yourself， there cannot be peace. Peace is a construct of people. It is an agreement that there is a better way to live， and a commitment to that way. That way is. . . peacefully.
How’s your temper？ Do you offer others a piece of your mind often？
Oh， you do not even have to open your mouth to pass judgment. Just roll or avert your eyes. That doesn’t leave too much to the imagination.
Remember you cannot not communicate. Peace has a price tag. Each person has to pay it or they simply cannot have it. Here are a few ways to save up for it：
Work on Your Self-development
When you find yourself judging others， first ask yourself if you are blameless in those areas. When you have taken care of the issue responsibly yourself， you will better understand how to be most helpful to others.
Focus on Solutions not Problems
Rather than looking for someone to blame， put your energy into creating a better way to rectify a situation or to prevent a recurrence. Work towards agreement for solutions. That’s a much better use for your energy.
Identify Your Feelings Correctly
Take the time to identify the feeling you are experiencing accurately and give it a name. People can understand fear， frustration and pain when it is described. Talking about it brings clarity to communication. Anger is an arousal in your body in response to fear， frustration or pain. Simply being angry causes folks to move away from you.