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生命不需退缩 Is Life Shy?

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I was painfully shy as a child. In high school I would avoid anticipating in class discussions. I was too afraid to talk to anyone but my closest friends. I would think about being less shy, wanting the courage not only to ask a girl out, but to speak up in class and say what I was thinking. Yet, it never happened. Fears embodied themselves in such self-conscious questions as, "What will other people think?" "What if she says no?" I felt a dark presence in my mind holding me back.

This shyness continued into college. One day the question occurred to me: Is life shy?

The thought startled me! Think of the leaves bursting out in the springtime, the bird singing at dawn, the sheer number of different forms of life, all expressing the wideness and scope of divine Life. There's nothing shy about it. This Life is everywhere and attention-grabbing. So, if my creator isn't shy about all the life that needs expressing, I don't need to be either.

I realized that if I wanted to overcome fear and shyness, I would have to put this law of Life into practice. Shyness, fear, and loneliness were hindering me from living my life as Life, God wanted me to live it. I had to refuse to let fear and shyness control me. Instead, I decided to live how Life saw me.

One example: I wrote a note to a girl, asking her out on a date. Even as I was writing it, the fears of rejection and unworthiness came to me. This time however, instead of shrinking back and hiding from the fear, I put the note in the campus mail in spite of myself. I thought, whether she says yes or no, it's still right for me not to be shy. I can live with the confidence sent from the source of my life. The girl saw me in class the next day and told me that she would love to go out with me. I shouldn't have been so surprised!

Bit by bit, I was proving that a limited view of myself no longer had control over me. After college, I worked as a newspaper reporter, earned an advanced degree in theater, became a published writer (a lifelong dream), met a special woman whom I married, and even got a job teaching at a major university.