布赖恩·A./Bryan A.
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met. Our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But, only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
人们不断走进你的生活，有的是为了某个理由，有的会陪伴你度过一段时期，也有的会终生与你相伴。一旦对他们有了准确的认识和把握，你就会知道应该如何对待他们每一个人。
当某些人带着特定的目的亲近你时，通常表现为迎合你的某种需要，他们完全因你的需要而存在，帮助你克服困难，给予你支持和指引，在物质上、情感上或精神上援助你。但是，在你毫无过错，或者遇到困难之时，他们也会通过言语或行为来惹恼你，以此来终结你们的关系。结束的方式或是远离，或是处处与你为难，或是他们死了。而我们必须认识到的是，当我们的欲望得到满足，愿望得以实现，他们的任务也宣告完成了。需要得到了满足，我们就应该继续向前迈进了。