佚名/Anonymous
Friends play an important part in our lives, and although we may take the friendship for granted, we often don’t clearly understand how we make friends. While we get on well with a number of people, we are usually friends with only a few—for example, the average among students is about 6 per person. In all the cases of friendly relationships, two people like one another and enjoy being together, but beyond that, the degree of intimacy between them and the reasons for their shared interest change greatly. As we get to know people, we consider things like age, race, economic conditions, social positions and intelligence. Although these reasons are not of prime importance, it is more difficult to get on with people when there is a great difference in age and background.
Some friendly relationships can be kept on argument and discussion, but it is usual for close friends to have similar ideas and beliefs, to have opinions and interests in common—they often talk about“being on the same wavelength”. It generally takes time to reach this point. And the more intimate people become, the more they depend on one another. People want to do friends favors and hate to break a promise. Equally, friends have to learn to put up with bad habits and to accept differences of opinion.
In contrast with marriage, there are no friendship ceremonies to strengthen the association between two people. But the supporting and understanding of each other that results from shared experiences and emotions does seem to create a powerful bond, which can overcome differences in background, and break down barriers of age, class or race.
生活中，朋友扮演着一个极为重要的角色。然而，我们可能把友谊视为理所当然，通常并不清楚朋友是怎么结识的。尽管我们与很多人都相处融洽，但真正成为朋友的只有少数几个——比如，学生平均每人有六个朋友，其中两人志趣相投，相处甚好；除此之外，朋友间的亲密程度及志趣相投的原因大不相同。我们在彼此结识时，常会考虑对方的年龄、种族、经济条件、社会地位和聪明才智等。尽管这些因素并非特别重要，但当人们在年龄与背景方面存在太大差异时，往往很难相处。