佚名/Anonymous
We’ve all been brainwashed!We were all taught the work ethic!“Work（and suffer）till you die, or if you're lucky retire. We don't have time to waste on frivolities. We have responsibilities to fulfill. We have to be serious, work hard, rise in our career, make lots of money, and make earning money and advancing in our career a priority.”
I wish to change that programming in my life. I know that when I do the things I enjoy doing, things work out better for me. I know that when I do something against my will, against my heart, it doesn’t work out well. I know that stressing myself out to try to get a job done usually takes twice as long as taking time out and doing that same task at some other time in a relaxed manner.
We can change the criteria by which we decide what to do in our lives. Instead of“Will it bring in lots of money or advance my career”，we need to ask ourselves,“Will I enjoy doing this?Will this be fun?Am I looking forward to getting started on this?”
If you can’t answer“yes”to these questions, then quite possibly this is not the task for you!
If it is something that must be done, i.e.taxes, dishes, etc, the solution is to find someone else to do them for you. There are some people who will enjoy and love to do what you prefer not to do. Really!For example, I am not the world’s best housekeeper. I do not really enjoy cleaning, washing floors, windows, etc. Yet there are some people who enjoy the meditative aspect of this work and who really get satisfaction from a job well done. It is to my benefit to pay someone to do this work so I can take that time earning money doing things that I enjoy.
We are all very different and different things appeal to each one of us. Just because someone else enjoys a particular thing does not mean that you must. We can trust what I call the“fun index”to assist us in knowing if a particular action is the one for us. We can break away from the rule of thumb that judges things by whether they bring money or career advancement. We can change that to making our decisions based on whether an action will bring us pleasure and personal satisfaction. Does the work you do leave you feeling proud and pleased with yourself?Are you following the voice of“should”s or the one of“want to”？