丹尼斯·斯科菲尔德/Deniece Schofield
Obviously,organization is my favorite subject.How could such a bor ing subject be so satisfying?Let me explain.
At our house,we work on a system of negative rewards.By that I mea n,I don't hear too much about it when I do things right,but I hear pl enty when I mess up!Sound familiar?
After spending hours on all fours cleaning the refrigerator,I can't remember ever hearing anyone say,"Gee,Mom,the refrigerator looks g reat!" And no one ever says,"I'm so glad all the buttons are on my s hirt this morning." Or,"Aw.shucks,dear,you made the bed!" But,bo y,do I hear about it if there's a button missing,a sticky floor,or a n unmade bed.Sometimes it seems there's a universal misconception that I have exclusive rights to the sewing box,the mop,and the linen closet.(I'm doing my best to reconceive that idea!)
You too have noticed that doing housework is like fining a sieve wit h water.Phyllis Diller sums it up nicely:"Cleaning the house while th e children are growing is like shoveling snow before it stops snowing."
Negative rewards.We face them daily.Do it right and no one remembe rs,but do it wrong and no one forgets.Maybe you've noticed that there's not a lot of glory at home.We don't often receive accolades or pat s on the back (with the obvious exception of Mother's Day or Father's Day).And where are my loyal supporters the rest of the year?Why,they're spilling milk in my clean refrigerator,throwing gum wrappers in th eir sock drawers,and volunteering four hundred cupcakes for the next PT A meeting (which is usually held this evening).No wonder we conclude th at organized living is best left to the childless,the single,or to inc redibly stouthearted parents!
All this leads me to why getting things in order is exciting!When y ou have a closet,a cupboard,or a drawer in perfect order,that one lit tle area seems to say,"You're doing a wonderful job!Keep up the good work!" What motivation!It's terrific to feel those words,because cha nces are ten to one you'll never hear them.