You will continually attract the same lesson into your life. You will also draw to your teachers to teach you that lesson until you get it right. You may try to avoid the situation， but they will eventually catch up with you. The only way you can free yourself of difficult patterns and issues you tend to repeat is by shifting your perspective so that you can recognize the patterns and learn the lessons that they offer. To face these challenges means you need to accept the fact that something within you keeps drawing you to the same kind of person or issue， though that situation or relationship may be very painful.
The challenge， therefore， is to identify and release the patterns that you are repeating. This is no easy task， since it means you have to change， and change is not always easy. Staying just as you are may not help you advance spiritually， but it certainly is comfortable in its familiarity.
Rising to the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns forces you to admit that the way you have been doing things isn’t working. The good news is that by identifying and releasing the pattern， you actually learn how to change. In order to facilitate your process of change， you will need to learn the lessons of willingness and patience. Once you master these， you will most likely find the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns far less intimidating.
The real secret to being able to change is the willingness to do so. If you are to make any progress in excavating yourself from the cycles that entrap you， you must first identify the patterns that keep you stuck. Then you can begin to release the old behaviors.
If you truly want to change， you will choose to do it， and make a commitment to the process of it. However， if you rely on the thought that you should change， you will make the decision to do so and then you will feel the pinch of sacrifice. Following the current trends， the advice of friends， or the wishes of family members result in decision； following your inner compass results in choice.