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第34章 在人生道路上边走边思 (8)

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Anger is never good and it increases anxiety levels of the individual. When one is angry, the heart pumps a lot more blood than the normal capacity and hence it leads to high blood pressure. This may also cause a heart attack. So always be like the hard working duck, which is calm and composed by its expressions, but paddling like hell at the bottom (to keep itself moving). For human beings this means that, we have to keep moving in life by hard work. Never let disappointment and frustrations rule you. You make your own future and destiny, by following the right attitude.

After all, it' s all in a state of mind. Everyone has two options. One is anger and the other is maintaining your composure4 through patience. I chose the latter one. What have you chosen?

几乎每个人都听过这句有名的习语:愤怒距危险仅一步之遥。这是一句古老的格言,经受住了时间的考验,是正确的论断。愤怒时的所言所行会对许多人和事造成伤害。那种压抑心头的怒火迟早会如火山般喷薄而出。

让我们从基本的角度尝试着予以分析,为什么人会发怒呢?也许是对事情的进展或境况不满意,也许是不愿被带去骑马,或是埋怨生活对他的残忍等等。这些繁杂的琐事就是引发愤怒的原因。当气馁与失败累积到一定程度,忍无可忍时,我们的感情就会如同火山一样喷发出来。愤怒是自我发展的一大障碍,它会使我们的视野狭隘。当心灵充斥着愤怒和傲慢的情绪时,便没有逻辑性和公正性可言。

愤怒可以达到某种目的,但并不适合所有情况。其原因是,随着年龄的增长,你有责任去调整自己的情绪,抑制挫败感。没有人有那种远见和能力,能判断出扰乱你心绪的因素或是让你为困境烦忧的原因所在。经常发怒的人难成大事,而懂得这个道理的人则容易获得成功。

培养耐心是抑制愤怒的最好方法。有耐心的人就意味着他心智的成熟,似一匹勇敢的战马可以超越愤怒。他可以随时控制自己的情绪,并采取最有效的方法摆脱困境。这样的人总会平心静气地去享受生活。